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6 great lessons to learn from Myles Munroe

13 Nov

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When God spoke to me about 3 years ago that we are in a time of transition from the Moses to Joshua generation, it never made sense as it is hard to understand the magnitude of such a revelation. This Monday 10/11/14 I woke up to shocking news of the death of my mentor and spiritual father Dr. Myles Munroe and as I was asking God how this could have happened, a friend of mine reminded me of this prophetic message. Here is the message he sent me (paraphrased):

“Sorry for the loss of our father my friend, I feel that Lord is saying it is time for us to apply what we have learnt from Dr. Myles Munroe. I feel the Lord is saying Joshua 1:5-10”

Joshua 1:5-10 says “No one shall be able to stand against you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you; I will not fail you or forsake you.  Be strong and courageous; for you shall put this people in possession of the land that I swore to their ancestors to give them. Only be strong and very courageous, being careful to act in accordance with all the law that my servant Moses commanded you; do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, so that you may be successful wherever you go. This book of the law shall not depart out of your mouth; you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to act in accordance with all that is written in it. For then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall be successful. I hereby command you: Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”  Then Joshua commanded the officers of the people,  “Pass  through the camp, and command the people: “Prepare your provisions; for in three days you are to cross over the Jordan, to go in to take possession of the land that the Lord your God gives you to possess.’ “

Now this was so powerful and given the circumstances that this happened immediately after Moses had died, I knew perfectly that God was telling me what He had told me earlier and I now realize that God was serious and will bring to pass that which He has promised.

The second part of the prophesy was that He told me and those of my generation to prepare to take over. Preparation calls our generation to go back to the basics of the Kingdom of God i.e. Prayer, fasting, evangelism, discipleship and fellowship with one another.

Now back to the main point of this article.

It is hard to summarize or write about the impact and/or lessons we have learnt from Dr Myles Munroe as they are enormous and I certainly know there a number of tapes and messages I have not listened to so there quite many more lesson for me to learn however let me take off time to sum up the lessons below. These lessons are both from his messages as well as my reflections on his life.

1. Leadership

Leadership was at the core of Dr. Myles Munroe’s ministry. It is his conviction (which I also believe in personally) that every single individual living on planet earth was born a leader. He would go on to say we were create to leaders over people but rather over an area of gifting. It is with this conviction that he taught extensively on leadership with the hope that many people especially in the third world will be transformed from followers to leaders and that leaders do not just sit to enjoy privileges but they are also transformed into change agents. His desire to have all humans achieve their true potential so that we all die empty.

2. Mentor-ship

Just like Jesus Christ, Munroe taught that the very first act of a leader was to find his replacement. Just like Jesus Christ every leader must pro-actively seek out to find his replacement right at the start of his leadership. This is simply because much as a vision is given to an individual, God gives the vision so that it can benefit the entire world therefore it would selfish for any leader to think a vision is his alone. Jesus recruit 12 replacements who spread his vision and more than 2000 years later it still lives on. I have no doubt that with all the mentees Munroe had developed his vision for the world will live on for the generations to come. As leaders we learn from him that we must pro-actively look for our replacements and mentor them.

3. Bible is about a Kingdom not a religion

One of the greatest questions I asked myself when I began reading the Bible was that why is there no mention of any of the common religions we grew up hearing in the Bible. I have never seen protestant, catholic, moslem etc, all I see consistently is the Kingdom of God and we see God addressed as a King, Lord and lots of other titles. However since we have grown up in an era where kingdoms are diminishing and we are experiencing democracies all over the world we could easily forget this. Myles Munroe is the first preacher I heard speak eloquently about the Kingdom of God and not religions and how a Kingdom operates. I believe Myles Munroe was a gift to our generation specifically to enable us realise that the Bible and God’s ultimate desire is to recognize Him as King and worship Him as He desires. In case you need details on this, you need to check out His Kingdom Principles series, you will be amazed and will certainly stop thinking religiously but start thinking Kingdom wise.

4. Live as an ambassador of the Kingdom

We all know that “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” – Edmund Burke. One of the key things I always admired about Dr. Munroe was that he never just sat down and kept quiet when evil was being done in his nation. A good example is a recent article he release to the press this November on homosexuality. He knew his role as a kingdom ambassador and did not just keep quite when evil people plotted evil schemes but always gave the message from our King concerning the several contentious issues in his nation and the world at large. We learn from Him that we need to influence the earth with Heaven’s culture. This is what we mean when we pray your Kingdom come and your will be done.

5. He lived what he preached

You know we have many preachers but barely have people who practice what they preach. Dr. Myles Munroe was a multi gifted speaker. He spoke on a wide range of topics including leadership, singleness, God and the Kingdom of God, marriage etc. Dr. Myles was one of the few preachers who literally practised what he preached. In terms of marriage he worked together with his wife in the ministry, she was his helper beyond home to work as well, in terms of leadership he lived out the principles he preached, in terms of achieving potential he lived out his life’s dream and achieved full potential in fact he went from being a broke boy living in a slumish area in Bain town to owning a private jet, he had global influence in various areas including advising and providing consultancies to presidents all over the world. He indeed was not just a sweet talker but actually did what he preach. This is a great principle to learn from him.

6. Singleness vs Unmarried

Dr. Myles Munroe is the only preacher I have heard speak eloquently and accurately about singleness and unmarriedness the exact way the Bible teaches about these topics. Now, I have people often times confuse loneliness for singleness. Myles is the first person I heard come strongly to distinguish between these two. The Bible clearly stipulates that its not good for a man to be alone and not… its not good for a man to be single. So we need to get the truth out there. The Bible also teaches that it is better to remain unmarried so we can serve God whole heartedly… now this does not mean it is bad to be married but it says it is better… however many of us in the church are rebuking and making out friends who are unmarried uncomfortable. This tragedy saddens my heart a lot. This is not because I do not enjoy my marriage but rather because as a church we are not teaching the truth that our Master teaches in the Bible. The great lesson to learn from Dr. Myles here is we should teach what God teaches us in the Bible and not follow what we feel is desirable.

Finally I have just read an interview of Dr. Myles Munroe about the present state and future of the Church that I believe will help pick some more lessons from Dr. Myles Munroe . You can read it here as well. In deed we are privileged to have lived in the same time as Dr. Myles Munroe and need to study his work extensively to learn the truths about the life on earth that God revealed through him.

Ultimately, we learn a lot of great lessons from Myles Munroe’s teachings and life drawn from God’s Word and Revelation. He taught extensively in many areas of life. As time goes on I will be sharing more on these pertinent topics and many other lessons we can learn from his life.

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Myles Munroe – I will dearly miss you

10 Nov

Myles and Ruth Munroe

It is with a heavy heart and deep sadness that I write about my mentor and father who went to be with the Lord this morning. This morning, I woke up to very sad news of the death of Dr. Myles Munroe, his wife Ruth Ann Munroe, His Senior Vice-President Dr. Richard Pinder, Newly installed Youth Pastors Lavard and Radel Parks and their son Johannan, Pilots Stanley Thurston and Farkhan Cooper and one additional passenger in a plane crush at the Grand Bahama Airport. To the world, you may have simply lost a preacher, pastor or business partner but to me I have lost a mentor and father. I bless the Lord for his life and legacy, he totally touched my heart.

I first got to watch Dr. Myles Munroe on TV after I lost my brother in February, 2011. His message gave me hope and helped me rediscover my purpose in life even when my family and I were going through a very tough time. Since then I have listened and watched thousands of messages that he has recorded over his lifetime. Myles Munroe and his entire ministry have not just been a source of inspiration to me but they restored hope in me, enabled me to discover the leader in me, challenged me to think of myself as a greater individual than I thought I was, and encouraged me to pursue my purpose in life. My life totally changed when I started listening to him.

Before his death, my dream was to meet him and I managed to meet and listen to him personally last year when he came over to Uganda as I celebrated my wife’s birthday and Uganda celebrated 51 years of independence.

Ringing in my mind right now are constant things I have heard from him that keep ringing in my mind. These include:

  • Trapped in every follower is a leader however you have to become the leader you were created to be.
  • Leadership is not ruling over people but over a gift.
  • Your future is not ahead of you, it is trapped inside of you.
  • The richest place on this planet is not the oil fields, mines etc but rather the grave yard.
  • Ultimately in life we should strive to die empty.

And very many other phrases, Myles Munroe has been a role model, inspiration, father, mentor and an icon I have learnt from ever since I came into contact with him. My family and I will great miss him however the immense life lessons we have learnt from him will never depart from me.

Last November, I officially signed up for his mentorship program and learnt a lot from it. At the end of the program we were asked to create our life plans. It is so sad that this November, he has left the earth but one thing I am grateful for is that as a son he has left me behind with a vision and life plan for my life and when I work through it successfully his full impact of my life will be fulfilled.

This Saturday, another young man walked up to me and asked me to mentor him. He told me that he looks up to me and would want me to enable him be successful in his life. What this young man said to me touched my heart and took me back to the days when I have no purpose and barely anyone to look up to learn about God, principles of life, excellence, true leadership, vision and maximising potential in life. I pledge to continue the work the Lord Jesus Christ started, passed it on to people like Dr. Myles and now has been passed on to us to equip the next generation with these time-tasted principles.

I mourn with the Bahamas Faith Ministries, Munroe family, International Third World Leaders Association and all the other friends and partners. Dr. Myles and Mrs. Ruth Munroe will be dearly missed but I am certain his work is not going to die as he has mentored many of us to take over from him.

Bye bye Dr. Myles Munroe see you in Heaven and back on earth when our Lord Jesus Christ comes back and reconstructs it.

5 Lessons/Tips From My One Year in Marriage

8 Aug

Allan and Hansa

 

So TODAY, 8th August, 2014, Hansa and I celebrate one year in marriage and in an era where we have seen marriages break up even before they make 6 months of marriage it is worth celebrating the ONE Year anniversary. WOW, it feels like we just got married yesterday.

As has always been the habit, I always take a few lessons from my life experiences and so has been with this one; now I know some of you who may have gotten married way earlier than me must be saying hmmm… this guy has only spent one year and he is writing about marriage but hey.. what good is all the knowledge you have learnt if you don’t share it so others can learn from you experiences and not make the same mistakes. Anyway let me go ahead and share my lessons that I have learnt. Here we go:

1. Get rid of your fantasies, ideologies and cultures.

Before you get married, you have fantasies of what marriage is like and of course you get advice from people who have been married telling you what to do when but one thing you come to learn when you are actually married is that most of the fantasies may or may not work out and the knowledge passed either culturally does not work especially since marriage has evolved from the times of our fathers. We no longer have women staying at home and therefore it takes an understanding spouse to start making adjustments to suit the current times. I will give an example. Some of the advice I received was that “men do not enter the kitchen or even worse cook”, “you have to divide up roles you earn for the family and she does all the work at home”, “never ask for your wife’s money”. I have found most of such advice false and not applicable to our setting in fact in my case none of it works, I have on very many occasions found myself in the Kitchen cooking and my wife enjoys many of my meals, we share roles but often times rotate the roles and it works perfect for our marriage, we share financial knowledge and often times share bills etc. My huge lesson has been that since marriages have evolved we need to evolve as well and get rid of the ideologies that may have worked for our father because clearly… TIMES have changed and as such we must also change otherwise the marriage may crash you down.

I guess the big lesson for me and my wife has been that for us to be successful and spend more years together, we MUST be in control and build our marriage. It is OUR DECISIONS that influence how we should act and not our past, fantasies or even the cultures being passed on to us so we have developed our own principles and there are the ones we use to run our marriage and not necessarily our parents principles or that older couple’s principles. We learn from the experienced people but we do not copy and paste what they have done in their marriage.

2. True love as your spouse will feel it.

One of the most recommended books on marriage is the Five Love Languages by Garry Chapman. I would certainly recommend that anyone getting married or married and hasn’t read it should read it and apply the principles taught in it. I have observed that many of us as we love our spouses, we like to love them the way we feel loved e.g. if we love gifts, we think that our spouse will feel loved if we give them gifts. Unfortunately, if your spouse’s love language is not one of gifts then you just missed, they will feel nothing. I have learnt that as a husband, I need to study my wife and understand their language and then focus my energies on showing her my love through her love language and not mine. This will simplify your work as a spouse and I believe if we all focused on studying our partner’s love language and loved them using it, we would have less situations in our marriage where our partner does not feel loved and it would actually make them feel loved.

3. Define your own Financial footprint

I define one’s financial footprint as the way an individual handles money i.e. how they spend it, invest it, save it etc. The biggest influencer of our financial footprint are the families we grown up in. In most cases, you will find that if someone grew in a family where they used to host a lot of family gathering, they will ideally expect that when they start their own family such a trend should follow or where they never invest, you will barely see them investing any of the income they receive as a family.

The worst scenario I have observed are families where the father used to provide all the family finances and the mother spent all her money on her own things and so when a girl grows up from such a family, they expect ALL the bills to be covered by the hubby so that she can use her own money. In my culture this is what they usually refer to as ‘aka sente k’omukyala.’ I believe as I mentioned in my first point that when starting a new family such biases should not be considered. As a new couple, you should define how finances are handled in your new family. You should be able to sit down and agree on how and what to spend on what. I mean if you are able to share your bodies why is it hard to share your finances and how you handle them.

Finances are the second leading causes of divorce after infidelity so it is important for couples to define their own financial footprint in order to protect their marriage.

4. Leadership in marriage

The leadership and headship of the home falls on the man/male, there is no debate about this. God clearly stipulates it in his Word. However, I have learnt through the last one year, that “Leadership is not about the position but rather the function.” Even though my wife often times calls me “Boss”, I have learnt that my role at home is not to boss her around but to provide vision at home, to be the priest, to provide protection and make it feel safe for her and to make it the best place for her so that even when she is away she misses it. The quote below from Dr. Myles Munroe’s book; The Purpose and Power of Love and Marriage summaries my thoughts on Leadership and Submission in marriage:

“Submission means that a wife acknowledges her husband’s headship as spiritual leader and guide for the family. It has nothing whatsoever to do with her denying or suppressing her will, her spirit, her intellect, her gifts, or her personality. To submit means to recognize, affirm, and support her husband’s God-given responsibility of overall family leadership. Biblical submission of a wife to her husband is a submission of position, not person hood. It is the free and willing subordination of an equal to an equal for the sake of order, stability, and obedience to God’s design. As a man, a husband will fulfil his destiny and his manhood as he exercises his headship in prayerful and humble submission to Christ and gives himself in sacrificial love to his wife. As a woman, a wife will realize her womanhood as she submits to her husband in honour of the Lord, receiving his love and accepting his leadership. When a proper relationship of mutual submission is present and active, a wife will be released and empowered to become the woman God always intended her to be.” ― Myles Munroe

5. Join/form a marrieds group

Finally one of the most important things that has helped us was the marrieds group we formed/joined. One of the my favourite quotes on friend is:

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” ― C.S. Lewis

This is exactly what a married’s group does and has helped us with. We have discovered that for most of the situations we have gone through all the other couples in our group have either gone through them or are actually gone through these. This has helped not only draw comfort from others but also as a group we discuss through the issues and come up with solutions. It also helps us learn from each other’s experiences and share best and worst practices. And as such for the time we have been together I am grateful to my group mates for all the love, friendship and support you have provided to the Kakindas… we are truly grateful.

Finally, All the glory, honor, praise goes back to God, the Lord of the Heavens and the earth, the Author of life  for He has kept us, provided for us, taught us, loved us and been good through it all. As we continue on our marriage journey we promise to ALWAYS keep Him at the Centre our marriage.  Also thanks to my dear wife Hansa, she has done a great job loving me and keeping me in shape for the last one year. I am much smarter, a better decision maker, a great forgiver and much wiser. I am sure many of you who hang around me will testify to this. May God continue to bless you my dear wife.

To all readers I hope this article blesses you and you pick some of these lessons to better your relationships and marriages. I love you all and may God bless you. I am writing my first book on Marriage drawing from my one year experience and hope to share it here. It will be free so no need to worry about the costs of purchasing it.

25 years well lived. More is still to come…

16 Dec

On Saturday 14th December, I celebrated my 25th birthday which reminded me of the fact that 25 years ago a destiny was born and the world was braced with a destiny like no other. This got me thinking of my past few years; what did I want to make out of these year? What exactly has happened? What have I achieved so far? How have I been a gift to the world? How and what has my generation benefited from me so far?

Meditating on these few questions I have been able to see that the past 25 years of my life have been well lived at least according to my own judgement.  In my childhood, I set out to personally achieve and enjoy. Most of them were personal such as travelling around the world, living and working in the US, working for a global corporation, living and working in NYC and Silicon valley, getting married at 24 and being a role model to many other young people of my generation. Shocking I have outdone most of these “dreams” and my personal realization is that most of these were self centred and in spite of the fact that I have achieved all of them I am personally not fulfilled and in fact each time I hit a milestone and achieved each of them I only realised that there is more to life than just these or even mere satisfying my own desires. True satisfaction is drawn from serving others and not oneself.

Through the years and my life experiences I have also learnt a few lessons that I want to share at this moment. These include:

  • Serving the world with your gifting is more important than making money and will actually get you to places where the money you current earn or even have access to can’t.
  • Being a part of the Kingdom of God is very important and necessary for one to lead a successful life. It is very important to know the Manufacturer as product if you are to operate successfully in the domain you have been created to operate in. Knowing God has been a very transforming experience for me.
  • For one to lead a successful life, it must be guided by principles. And not just any principles but principles that have been tested and proved to work for generations. Principles like telling the truth and being true to oneself, integrity, honesty, etc. basically Kingdom principles for success in life.
  • True success just does not happen by mistake or lack. It is planned and one has to work towards it. A recent lesson learnt from my meditations on flights and how they operate. Every on every flight knows the starting point, the destination and how to get from the starting point to the destination way before the flight date. It is not suprising that very many flights are successful. I believe these same exact principles should apply to one’s life if they are to be successful in life.
  • I have come to love problems and always strive to be a problem solver. I have learnt that most people in life are trying to run away from problems and so the only way I am going to be of help to others is if I can solve problem. Actually, my mentor puts it this way: “If you are looking for a business idea, do not waste time reading books or even copying out what other people are doing, just get into your local society, look at the problems your people are facing and then make yourself the solution to those exact problems.”
  • Finally I have learnt that in everything I do I should think big, never compete with other people but rather compete with myself; striving to do better than I did the last time and lastly that good is the biggest enemy of great therefore I should just strive to be good but rather strive to be great. Greater than I was the last time I did some thing; pursue excellence in everything I do.

Thinking of the years to come, I do not wish to be bogged down by the successes I have achieved so far well knowing that the biggest enemy to my progress in life is my most recent success, my “dreams” have now been more refined. God’s call on my life is more clearer than ever before and He has actually revealed of what is yet to become of me. My future is much more brighter as I look forward to:

  1. Getting more and more involved in leadership. This is not just going to be locally but globally influencing policy and strategy with the principles and statutes of the Kingdom of God.
  2. Serving the world more with my gifts including art, speech and children from my own loins.
  3. And finally having dominion over the spheres of business, media, education and family.

Indeed, just as my wife prophesied over me this Saturday, greater things are yet to come to me, great things are still to be done. I truly look forward to the future because it is surely brighter. Finally thanks to all of you my friends and family, I am indeed a total sum of all of you and the different influences you had on me. May God richly bless you and keep you safe. He is the Author of my Life and to Him be all the glory and Honor and I credit Him even for the influence I have had on your life. Have a great week folks.